“What you resist persists.” – Carl Jung
“We resist because we think we have to if we want to keep control or change things. These are false assumptions. Who or what are you resisting? Any time we say, “It shouldn’t be this way,” we are in resistance to reality. Remember, no one likes to be “should upon”. Our resistance prolongs the experience and prevents us from being productive with the experience. Where are you in the “should” and how can you let go?” - Brian Klemmer
Resistance is the cutting off of communication or the putting up of a wall. Different ways of resisting include refusing to talk, procrastination, confusion, apathy, and denial. For me one of the greatest things I know that holds me back from being a Compassionate Samurai is resistance. I continually resist what people might have to offer because “I should not need help,” “I should be perfect”. In the past 3 days I have been offered assistance on multiple situations and I have put up my resistance wall. When I put up my resistance wall I refuse to talk and let my mind take over and listen to all the negative thoughts.
Instead of having the mindset of a Compassionate Samurai and being open-minded while practicing “be with” listening and not judging myself, I try to take control and close myself off and beat myself up. I did not realize till recently how much I resist accepting criticism or assistance. I believe I do this because I want to be right, I want to have control and I don’t want to be wrong. Every time I do put up resistance it affects me and it affects the person I am with which it makes our conversation and time spent together non-productive and tense. I want to continually grow a non-judgmental spirit of acceptance. I share all of this because I am sure we all have “should”, “could” and “woulds” we can let go of.
I challenge each one of us to answer the question, where am I in the “shoulds” and how can I let those go? I tell myself that I should be perfect and I should not need help but that is not true. The assistance of others will only help me grow into who God has created me to be. I am going to let these false ideas go by reminding myself of my mantra, “I am an accepting, courageous, worthy woman of God!”
Do you have a mantra you can say to yourself to combat negative thoughts? If not I challenge you to create one!
Rebekah Chavez
e/d Chip Hart
“We resist because we think we have to if we want to keep control or change things. These are false assumptions. Who or what are you resisting? Any time we say, “It shouldn’t be this way,” we are in resistance to reality. Remember, no one likes to be “should upon”. Our resistance prolongs the experience and prevents us from being productive with the experience. Where are you in the “should” and how can you let go?” - Brian Klemmer
Resistance is the cutting off of communication or the putting up of a wall. Different ways of resisting include refusing to talk, procrastination, confusion, apathy, and denial. For me one of the greatest things I know that holds me back from being a Compassionate Samurai is resistance. I continually resist what people might have to offer because “I should not need help,” “I should be perfect”. In the past 3 days I have been offered assistance on multiple situations and I have put up my resistance wall. When I put up my resistance wall I refuse to talk and let my mind take over and listen to all the negative thoughts.
Instead of having the mindset of a Compassionate Samurai and being open-minded while practicing “be with” listening and not judging myself, I try to take control and close myself off and beat myself up. I did not realize till recently how much I resist accepting criticism or assistance. I believe I do this because I want to be right, I want to have control and I don’t want to be wrong. Every time I do put up resistance it affects me and it affects the person I am with which it makes our conversation and time spent together non-productive and tense. I want to continually grow a non-judgmental spirit of acceptance. I share all of this because I am sure we all have “should”, “could” and “woulds” we can let go of.
I challenge each one of us to answer the question, where am I in the “shoulds” and how can I let those go? I tell myself that I should be perfect and I should not need help but that is not true. The assistance of others will only help me grow into who God has created me to be. I am going to let these false ideas go by reminding myself of my mantra, “I am an accepting, courageous, worthy woman of God!”
Do you have a mantra you can say to yourself to combat negative thoughts? If not I challenge you to create one!
Rebekah Chavez
e/d Chip Hart